1. The best way to keep children at home is to make the home atmosphere pleasant, and let the air out of the tires.
2. It doesn't necessarily mean that parents should treat each kid exactly equally because its unlikely the kids need the same thing.
Say one child is getting more attention for their school work than other, it maybe because that child needs that kind of support.
3. What makes you a man isn't the ability to have a child—it's the courage to raise one.
4. It's not politically correct to say that you love one child more than you love your others.
I love all of my kids, period, and they're all your favorites in different ways.
But ask any parent who's been through some kind of crisis surrounding a child--a health scare, an academic snarl, an emotional problem--and we will tell you the truth.
When something upends the equilibrium--when one child needs you more than the others--that imbalance becomes a black hole.
You may never admit it out loud, but the one you love the most is the one who needs you more desperately than his siblings.
What we really hope is that each child gets a turn. That we have deep enough reserves to be there for each of them, at different times.
All this goes to hell when two of your children are pitted against each other, and both of them want you on their side.
5. Do I want to be a hero to my son? No. I would like to be a very real human being. That's hard enough.
6. It starts in the home. If the father is not in the home, the boy will find a father in the streets. I saw it in my generation and every generation before me, and every one since
7. All children should be taught to unconditionally accept, approve, admire, appreciate, forgive, trust, and ultimately, love their own person.
8. You learn about anger in the family you grow up in; you watch and listen to the adults around you who model for you how and when to express it. And you learn that it can be respected, that it can be avoided, or that it can be abusive.
9. Dear mom, I get it now.
10. I only hope when I have my own family that everyday I see a little more of my father in me.
11. You see kids where each of them believe they are their parents favorites. And that means that the parents have done a pretty good job.
12. The most precious jewels you’ll ever have around your neck are the arms your children
13. I’m a great dad because I know what it’s like not to be a good dad.
14. If children feel there is some favoritism going on in the family, it can potentially create some real problems
15. A father is someone you look up to no matter how tall you grow.
16. Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother
Tags: Parenting |
17. The uncertainty of parenting can bring up feelings in us that range from frustration to terror.
18. Sibling rivalry is just one result of playing favorites by parents.
While some experts believe growing up with a little competition isn't a bad thing, too much could create a wedge between siblings that could last a lifetime.
19. Parents are humans, and we often have children that we can relate to better - maybe have personality that's more like ours - or interests that are more similar to ours.
20. Some parents intentionally hurt and abuse - they absolutely know what they are doing. But some (obviously) do not.
21. I think [parenthood] brings out the child in all of us. That’s what’s so beautiful. It reminds you of the fascination you had with things, and how you can spend hours just being with someone. It’s amazing
22. Every father should remember one day his son will follow his example, not his advice.
23. If you ask who is my favorite child - my son or my daughter - then I would say it is my dog.
24. A daughter needs a dad to be the standard against which she will judge all men
25. Sometimes the boundaries need reinforcing from time to time. This may sound like a parent-child relationship - and it is that way. But we are not doing it in an authoritarian way, we are doing it in a friendly, supportive way. But we are also being assertive about our boundaries being understood and respected.
26. How can you tell you are playing favorites?
Your child will speak up if they are feeling left out and it's important to not ignore what they have to say.
27. Mothers, look after your daughters, keep them near you, keep their confidence – that they may be true and faithful.
28. Don’t handicap your children by making their lives easy.