1. Be clear with your desires.
2. Michael Green: I love her. And I tried everything, except really listening, really listening, and that's how I left her alone. I was so ashamed of that, and I couldn't even tell her. Maybe if I tell her she'd love me anyway.
3. Listen carefully to how a person speaks about other people to you. This is how they will speak about you to other people.
4. Fill your mind before you empty your mouth.
5. If there is one thing I dislike, it is the man who tries to air his grievances when I wish to air mine.
6. The less you reveal, the more they wonder.
7. Brothers don’t necessarily have to say anything to each other – they can sit in a room and be together and just be completely comfortable with each other
8. tears are words that need to be written
9. When you share something that might potentially harm you, remember that reactions such as shock, anger and fear come out of concern for you.
10. I cut myself because you wouldn't let me cry.
I cried because you wouldn't let me speak.
I spoke because you wouldn't let me shine.
I shone because I thought you loved me...
11. Talk and use words instead of actions—speak rather than hit. Talk with the child about what behaviors are acceptable or not, what is safe or dangerous, and why.
12. You will be told your whole life that you need to learn to listen. I would say that you need to learn to be the last to speak. The skill to hold your opinions to yourself until everyone has spoken does two things: It gives everyone the feeling that they have been heard and contributed, and you get the benefit of hearing what everybody else has to think before you render your opinion.
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13. If you agree with somebody, don't nod "yes".
If you disagree with somebody, don't nod "no".
Simply sit there, take it all in and the only thing you're allowed to do is ask questions so you can understand what they mean and why they have the opinion that they have, and from where they are speaking. And at the end, you will get your turn.
14. The victim will definitely complain and even whine to others about how hard life is. But if anyone ever offers him some options for changing that life, the victim classically comes back with a long list of "Yes, buts." If we ever have the heart and temerity to confront him with this fact, he is liable to begin to cry and tell us repeatedly that we just don't understand how hard it is for him. Life is just harder for him than others—he doesn't know why—but it is. He may attach all kinds of rationales for that statement, but the truth is that he must keep believing that life is hard, or it might just get a whole lot harder.
15. Good words bring good feeling to the heart.
Speak with kindness, always.
16. The Ruler should not have any barrier which separates him from his people.
17. Even the simplest communication has multiple components that run the risk of creating misunderstanding: the listener and the speaker, their different points of view, the words they speak and the different meaning each word has for each person, the implicit message (intent versus actual words), the context, and the process of flow.
18. Oftentimes, people hear the beginning sentences and jump on that conclusion without realizing the person was going to go in a different direction.
19. Communication is a two-way street. When one person opens up and shares their experience, reciprocate. “Oh that is how you felt. This is what I was experiencing…” Be vulnerable and do your best to articulate your feelings. Lose the pride, as pride is the enemy of honest communication.
20. You always risk people misunderstanding you when you say anything.
21. Five minutes of communication can save a year’s worth of turmoil and misunderstanding
22. Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, “What else could this mean?”
23. Texting is a brilliant way to miscommunicate how you feel, and misinterpret what other people mean
24. An intellectual says a simple thing in a hard way. An artist says a hard thing in a simple way.
25. Artists are people driven by the tension between the desire to communicate and the desire to hide.
26. Never in the history of the world someone has calmed down or relaxed when you say “Calm Down” or “Relax”.
27. We often contradict with an opinion for no other reason than that we do not like the tone in which it is expressed.